BREASTS ARE A WOMANS ACCESS POINT TO HER EROTIC PLEASURE AND POWER
Breasts are loved by pretty much everyone however, it's easy to fall foul of an ideal image to how breasts ought to look. First published on BLOGGER in 2013
When I was a little kid I was obsessed with them. Whenever I visited my grandmother, who was an avid reader of The Sun newspaper, I would berate her for having such a naughty paper in her house, and promptly cut out the page 3 tits of the day.
Of course I would pretend to put these in the bin, when in reality, I was keeping a secret stash of these images in my secret lust of one day having my own set.
Unfortunately, my secret stash was discovered by my mother who promptly threw them away without saying a word to me. Lucky my father didn't discover this or it would have resulted in a beating.
My father wasn't the only one who was horrified by my erotic nature. As it turns out, both my parents were. They'd be raised in guilt and shame and didn't know what to do with sexuality, so they kept a religious grip on their essential nature.
Today though, it seems, whilst men instinctively love breasts, so many men don't know what to do with them, or whilst they will engage with breasts mostly they believe a woman's erotic flood gates open through the clitoris. Other men, are so addicted to the visual image of breasts they see in the media, that when they come face to flesh with warm flesh blooded ones they are disappointed or turned off.
Mostly though, with such overwhelming deluge of perfect images out there, our relationship to our bodies as women are affected to the point that we are struggling with our own hang-ups which hold us hostage from enjoying the pleasure available to us with a man. It takes quite a lot of patience from a man to cross the internal barriers a woman is holding within, often due to the ideals we so adhere to and the conditioning we've been subjected to as children.
For the curious men out there though, it's worth developing a tender relationship with women's breasts. This has everything to do with the natural polarity of women and men's bodies. Energetically we literally fit together like batteries. The plus to the minus and the minus to the plus. A woman's positive plus energy is in her breasts, her heart chakra. As women, our minus negative energy is in our genitals. Playing with a woman's clitoris may be arousing for us but it can quickly trap the energy in our sacral area leaving us feeling disconnected and frustrated, when our heart and breast area has not been activated first, so used as a quick turn on button it essentially is a synthetic form of arousal. For a man, his positive plus energy is his genitals and his minus negative energy is his chest and heart area.
Once the circuitry between a man and woman's plus and minus are set up, energy moves through out the whole bodies: women's heart energy travels to our genitals, heating up and opening us up, as the man receives this, his energy travels to his heart and opens him up. It's worth saying here that if either partner are unwilling to activate the heart in sex, there's very little truth in the act.
This is an opportunity for men and women to become more aware of honoring our bodies for the true value they inherently hold. To embrace the diversity and variety of the human form. After all, if The Sun's page 3 were all about naked men displaying horse size dicks, it wouldn't be valuing the power of a man at all.
If the paper continues page 3 tits of the day, I'd like to see them embrace all shapes and sizes of both the women and their breasts and have it really honor the female form and our femininity. I'd also love to see women stop it with body bashing articles picking on 'skinny' women, 'fat' women and every form in between, it's time for society at large to give it up!
Essentially though, we always have the choice what media we buy, my only contact with the Sun newspaper these days comes from travelling on the tube. One thing men can do if they really want to enjoy women fully is to help women drop the association with the perfect form, by dropping it themselves as men.
There is something deeper to this for me though. Beauty has always been revered through out civilization. It is one of life's pleasures. The media are not responsible for the way we as women feel about ourselves. With or without images around us, the mind will obsess if allowed on all sorts of physical, mental, emotional comparisons with others. It is always up to us as individuals to choose our authentic being over and above the noise of the society around us.
The way we feel about ourselves comes from a much deeper place inside of our being, not from the media, so whilst its tempting to think that removing other people's 'assets' from our view is going to solve all women's ills, I feel that's a big fat lie. The truth requires us to go deeper into ourselves, to look at what really underpins ANY insecurity we may be holding onto and to realize the illusion of it.
Men are drawn to women's breasts for good reason, there is no good reason to make them or anyone else wrong for that. All of us are drawn to beauty, though it comes in many forms and is sometimes intangible to the eye.
It is our own personal responsibility to explore any areas of jealousy, comparison , envy, and so on. It is our own personal responsibility to bring to light areas where the impact of the way we were received or not received growing up impacted our self image and to see these for the limiting illusions they are.
It is also our responsibility to get in touch with our own essential nature and power as women. To go beyond form into our being through our bodies, which is beyond its outer appearance and into the heart of the energy stored in the breasts, which are nourishing and sustaining of life.
It's a form of bodywork to assist women to let go of any general or sexual trauma stored within the body. This trauma doesn't have to consist of any physical sexual abuse, often times it is the withholding of physical presence as we grow up and the confusion around sexuality that creates the problem.
For me, this presented as sexuality being made bad and wrong in FOO home and much of the physical contact I received as a child was mixed in with alot of beatings, being ignored, and punished through being put in isolation. All of which I stored within my body without even realizing. Whilst I've never had a problem with breasts or the image of breasts, my self worth as a woman was deeply impacted by my experiences within the family unit. It is the purpose of this blog to uncover all the ways this experience impacted my life whilst revealing my journey in coming home to myself.